Incorruptible

This is the beginning of a new journey for me: connecting with like-minded people in cyberspace. Even as I write this, my inner eye is blinking at “like-minded”. What does that phrase mean?

At the centre (oh, the eye is blinking again) of most individuals there is a desire to move and grow, be truly who they believe they can possibly be. Again my inner eye, or “sense”, is attempting to find a language that communicates. This type of inner interaction is part of Gestalt here-and-now, self-awareness understanding. As I pay attention to this inner dialogue I am faced with multiple choices. How do I find the right or best choice?

Well, let’s return to my inner eye, the locus for my raison d’être. One clear reason I have for being is in finding the live contact-boundary within whatever situation life presents. The fictional problem sent by Sighing Susan is a very common contact-boundary issue, causing immense potential conflict if not addressed. She asks whether she should “keep quiet and not bother”. If she were in therapy with me, this issue would be addressed on a personal basis, for instance:

1. looking at aspects of her past relationships (family cycles in particular)
2. whether the relationship with her partner has been like this from the beginning (or has something changed to effect it?)
3. finding positive ways of improving intimacy (looking for strategies)

As I connect with like-minded people in cyberspace, like your selves, I can only begin where I am. I am in an open space with many possible solutions, few of which will apply to you who are reading this letter — because we are all different. I can dish out advise, or I can point you toward more eternal values, which are somehow above and beyond how tiresome it is when our intimate relationships don’t work as we want them to.

My inner eye is telling me I have gone as far as I can go, at present. If you join me on this journey we can explore the issues together. There is no right or wrong way of doing things, no blame within the context of honest exploration. Being on a journey with others is about listening and responding.

If you would like to contribute to this newsletter, please send me a problem. I will do my best to include what I read and “hear” into further letters.