Relationship Matters

Love is about sharing

Love is about giving

Love is about loving

Love is about dancing together

Love is about making things together

Love is about hugging each other

Love is about  being friends together

Love is about sharing a day

Love is about Love

EP age 5yrs 6 months

What is a friend

What defines a true  friend?  How do we know ?

I think the following poem written by my late Colleague sums it up nicely.

I think a friend is someone,who has time to care.

Who is sincere and trusting,who helps you to share.

The pains of life ‘s burdens,when you’re feeling weighed down,

Then brings about laughter who can act like a clown.

Who shows understanding and has listening ears.

Who’s eyes fill with wonder,yet can mist and shed tears.

A friend is someone you’ll miss talking to,

Who  brings comfort through pain,when life’s pleasures are few.

Who is knowingly silent,yet not slow to speak

Who for you,wants success in all that you seek.

For friends, united in spirit, are never apart,

In times of absence, joy lives in each heart .

Author KS

Once a year we are asked to give thought to our fathers, to celebrate their role in our lives.

This draws the question. How has your relationship or non relationship with your father /dad impacted on you? What influence has your relationship with dad, his legacy, had and still having on your relationships in the present day.

Has this relationship enabled you or disarmed you? Encouraged or disrupted? Left you feeling loved or ?

I hope that this space will be given to reflect upon the variety of influences a parent can have on our lives and what we are left with.

Thinking out-loud

Jill

A powerful dream that means more?
Last night I dreamt that I noticed something protruding from my wrist. It was a live, worm like, as thin as a thread. As I pulled I felt the pain from deep inside my arm. It struggled against being seen. There was so much of it. As I drew it out it began to find its way into my hand, to go back, I had to wrestle with it and throw it with great force as far from me as possible. No sooner had I done this than a larger alien appeared thicker (more vein like than before) the pulling out of this alien thing was painful and seemed ongoing, no end in sight. There was a sense that they were multiplying in side and the more I teased out the more I noticed how my body was riddled. They were moving around under the surface of my skin an overwhelming sense of being taken over by something that did not belong to me. They seemed strong and it was hard work, a painful battle, a sense of needing to casino online understand their origin and a disbelief to how many there were. It seemed I have a hard drive recovery software base to which I add weekly and each week I copy the updated file to a cd-r using the Microsoft program. the more I extracted the larger they got, stronger casino online and harder to control.

This dream is familiar to me. I relate it to the internal struggle, to understand how my life experiences, the hurting child parts struggle to be visible. How the messages received from care givers reinforced feeling invisible and began They introduced MapReduce as simplified best-data-recovery.com processing software on large clusters. to casino online take over. For me the pulling out is the need to understand, there begins a realisation how deep the traumatic experiences go and  how they have taken over my functioning. Impacting on my ability to communicate clearly with people. I find myself drawn to relationships that repeat those of the past, I am learning to listen to the hurting self and tease out what patterns of behaviour are being repeated in the present in order to do it differently. I recognise my choice of life partner was done through misted vision. I live with an alien!!! We speak a foreign language .Walking through the door of my home sometimes feels like entering a new world. One within which I struggle to survive.

Thinking out loud:-
Aliens are within and external to our self. External aliens found in the form of our intimate relationships. Miss communication day to day, the sense of been invisible or misunderstood.

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